Angry to gentle

Numbers 20:1 A great mob formed, and they held a protest meeting; "Would that we too had died with our dear brothers the Lord killed! "they shouted at Moses. "You have deliberately brought us into this wilderness to get rid of us, along with our flocks and herds. Why did you ever make us leave Egypt and bring us here to this evil place? Where is the fertile land of wonderful crops--the figs, vines, and pomegranates you told us about? Why, there isn't even water enough to drink!" Moses and Aaron turned away and went to the entrance of the Tabernacle, where they fell face downward before the Lord; and the glory of Jehovah appeared to them. And he said to Moses, "Get Aaron's rod; then you and Aaron must summon the people. As they watch, speak to that rock over there and tell it to pour out its water! You will give them water from a rock, enough for all the people and all their cattle!" So Moses did as instructed. He took the rod from the place where it was kept before the Lord; then Moses and Aaron summoned the people to come and gather at the rock; and he said to them, "Listen, you rebels! Must we bring you water from this rock?" Then Moses lifted the rod and struck the rock twice, and water gushed out; and the people drank. But the Lord said to Moses and Aaron," Because you did not believe me and did not sanctify me in the eyes of the people of Israel, you shall not bring them into the land I have promised them!"
Moses and Aaron became angry and shouted at the people they were given authority over to protect and provide for (Devil is in the decibels). The result was that they did not enter into what they could have received of the promise of God. Anger causes us to miss out on what God has for us.

Husbands and wives – The authority that lays down its life
1Peter 3:7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, as heirs with you of the grace of life so that your prayers are not hindered.

Parents and children – The authority that directs corrects and encourages
Ephesians 6:4 And now a word to you fathers. Don't keep on scolding and nagging your children, making them angry and resentful. Rather, bring them up with the loving discipline the Lord himself approves of, with suggestions and godly advice.

The Church – The authority that nurtures and feeds
1Thessalonians 2:7 As Apostles we could have made demands upon you, but we were gentle among you, like a nursing mother taking care of her own children. So we had such care for you that we were ready to share with you not only the gospel of God but also our own souls, because you had become very dear to us.
There is a selfless protective anger that is directed against the harm that people in our care can be threatened with, such as protecting our family from attack. That is like God’s wrath against darkness.
There are two kinds of wrath.
Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

One another – The mutual submission of one to another so that all will be blessed
Matthew 5:21 You have heard that our ancestors were told, ‘You must not kill. If you do, you are subject to judgment.’ But I say, if you are even angry with someone, you are subject to judgment! Put in simple terms anger kills relationships.
1Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient and gentle. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.
“Behold I make all things new” (Revelation/2Corinthians) Behold I make all things NOW.